sooho roz siQq lfiebryrI puwjdf hF. drvfjLf KolHidaF hI AucI AucI glF krdy pMjfbIaF dI afvfjL kMnI pYNdI hY. kfAUNtr dy lfgy puwjidaF Kwby pfsy cor awKIN vyKdf hF. kuJ dysI BfeI bMd aKbfrF vflI myjL duafly kursIaF qy bYTy hn aqy Bfrq dI isafsq Auqy grmf grm bihs ho rhI hY. QF QF kMDF qy tMgy ‘cuwp rho’ dy noits df koeI Borf Br vI noits nhIN lY irhf. lfiebryrIan by-bs lwgdI hY. socdf hF AuhnF BfeIbMdF pfs jfvF? pr mn kihMdf hY qYnUM kI? aqy iPr soc nUM mn ijwq lYNdf hY. cuwp krky, kMn vlyt k,y afpxf kMm krn AuprMq, iKsk jfx ivc hI gLnImq smJdf hF.

myry pfs iqMn pusqkF hn: do pMjfbI dIaF aqy iek AurdU dI. mYN ieh iqMny hI pusqkF vfps vI krnIaF hn aqy muV ky jfrI vI. BfeIbMdF dIaF, rOlf rwpf pfAuNdIaF, afvfjLF qoN iDafn htf ky bVI hI DImI afvfjL ivc lfiebryrIan nUM afpxI gwl dsdf hF. sLfied myrI DImI afvfjL kfrn AusnUM Dwkf lwgdf hY. qRBk ky Aus ny pihlF myrI vlF aqy iPr gwlF krdy BfeIbMdF vwl iek njLr suwtI. Ausny, ibnF kuJ afKy-cfK,y ikqfbF nUM vfps aqy jfrI krn leI stYNpF lgf ky, pusqkF myry vlF vwDf idwqIaF. hOlI dyky DMnvfd afiKaf qF ies vfrI Auh myrI DImI afvfjL qy muskrfeI. pqf nhIN ikAuN AusdI muskfn ny mYNnUM sLrimMdf kr idwqf?

ikqfbF lY ky ijAuN hI agHF kdm puwitaf qF sfhmxI sLYlPL Auqy huxy huxy hI afeIaF nvIaF pusqkF Auqy njLr peI. ‘lok ivhfr’ nF dI pusqk cuwkdf hF. tfeItl pVHdf hF: dosq bnfAux aqy lokF nUM pRBfivq krn dIaF ivDIaF lok ivhfr kroVF dI igxqI ivc Cwpx vflI pusqk. ieh pusqk, lyKk zyl kfrnygI dI aMgryjI ivc ilKI pusqk ‘How to win Friends and Influence people' df pMjfbI anuvfd hY. anuvfdk df nF gLfieb hY aqy bynqI dy isrlyK hyT muwKbMd qoN pqf lwigaf ik pihlF ies pusqk df anuvfd ihMdI ivc aqy sLfied iPr ihMdI qoN pMjfbI ivc kIqf igaf sI. pr ikAuNik pusqk sbMDI dfavf sI ik ieh 1991 qwk kroVF dI igxqI ivc Cwp cuwkI hY ies leI mn hoieaf ik ies nUM pVH ky dyKxf cfhIdf hY ik ies pusqk ivc aijhf kI hY ik ieh pusqk kroVF ivc CpI qy pVHI geI. nfl hI socdf hF: mYN nf qF awj qwk bhuqy dosq hI bxf sikaF hF aqy nf hI iksy nUM pRBfvq hI kr sikaf hF. sLfied pusqk dI koeI gwl myry afpxy hI iksy kMm af sky. ieh pusqkF aqy iehnF df moh vI ikaf cIj hY. ieh pusqk vI afpxy nF jfrI krvf lYNdf hF.

lfiebryrI dy Kwby pfsy hflF vI glF-bfqF df grm dOr jfrI hY. AuhnF dI jfxy juwqI ik lfiebryrI iks kMm leI huMdI hY. BfeIbMdF dI rOlf pfAuNdI bihs nfl pwky kMn lY ky Gr puwijaf aqy sB qoN pihlF ‘lok ivhfr’ nUM hI pVHnf afrMB kIqf. 256 pMinaF dI ieh pusqk mYN iqMn idnF ivc pVH leI. kyvl pVHI hI nhIN, ies ivc afKIaF geIaF bhuq sfrIaF gwlF dy nots vI ley. suJfvF nUM hU-b-hU aqy vfD-Gft nfl, afpxy leI Auicwq vyrivaF smyq iliKaf. pusqk pVHky mYNnUM ies gwl df duwK hoieaf ik mYNnUM ieh pusqk awj qoN cflI-pMjfh vrHy pihlF ikAuN nf iml skI. ‘kfsL’ aijhf huMdf aqy ieh pusqk mYN pihlF pVH skdf qF awj mYN jo kuJ vI hF Auh nf huMdf. sLfied kuJ hor huMdf. pr jo kuJ hoxf huMdf hY Auh jdoN vI hoxf huMdf hY AudoN hI huMdf hY. mnuwK df afpxf ies ivc kuJ vI dKLl nhIN.
dKLl nhIN? nfly ‘kfsL’ hI qF iek aijhf sLbd hY jo iksy dI vI pysL nhIN jfx idMdf. ‘bynqI’ (muwKbMd) ivc drj hY: jIvn sMgrfm ivc sPLl hox dy leI jYsIaF cMgIaF qy ivhfrk sUcnfvF ies (pusqk) ivc idwqIaF geIaF hn, vYsIaF iksy dUjI pusqk ivc bhuq hI Gwt imlxgIaF.

mYN smJdf hF ik ies pusqk dI loV sB nUM hI hY. vpfrI, zfktr, vkIl, Tykydfr, rfjf, pRjf, pRbMDk, imwl mflk, mjLdUr, iksfn, isLlpI, dukfndfr, syljLmYn, vkqf, AupdysLk, ividafrQI, iesqrI, pursL, jvfn, ibRD, pqI, pqnI, pRymI, pRyimkf, lyKk, lyKkf, kvI, kivqrI. gwl kI sB nUM hI iesdI jLrUrq hY. jLrUrq mihsUs ho skdI hY. lyKk df dfavf hY. dfavf hY? hF dfavf---

pusqk df lyKk, ies pusqk dy pMnf 26 qy ilKdf hY: “jy ies pusqk dy pihly iqMn aiDafie pVH cuwkx dy smyN qwk qusIN jIvn dIaF siQqIaF df sfhmxf krn dy kuJ ijLafdf Xog nhIN ho jFdy, qF, ijwQoN qwk quhfzf sbMD hY, mYN smJFgf ieh pusqk iblkul inkMmI hY.”

vyKdf hF, iqMn aiDafie koeI bhuqy lMby nhIN. muwKbMd sxy 60 pMny hI qF hn. smyN vjoN sOdf koeI bhuqf mihMgf nhIN lwgdf. bhuq swsqf hY.

pr--- pr iDafn rwKx vflI iewk hor gwl hY: iswiKaf kI huMdI hY? iswiKaf df AudysL kI hMdf hY? iswiKaf df mhfn AudysL igafn dI prfpqI nhIN aqy nf hI igafn dI prfpqI kr krky, igafn df BMzfr hI iekwTy krI jfxf hY. iswiKaf df muwK AudysL ‘krm’ hY.

krm, kyvl krm hI.

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myrI, quhfzI, iksy hor dI jF sfzI sB dI hI awj dI muwK loV kI hY? loV hY:

* ik koeI dUjf quhfnUM, sfnUM, quhfzI, sfzI mfnisk lkIr ivcoN kwZ ky quhfzy, sfzy mnF ivc nvIn ivcfr, nvIn klpnfvF aqy nvIaF AumMgF Br dyvy.

* ik koeI sfnUM-quhfnUM bhuq hI sihj nfl, ibnF iksy vwzI imhnq kIiqaF quhfzI-sfzI lok-ipRaqf vDf ky quhfzy-sfzy imwqrF df Gyrf vDf dyvy.

* lokIN quhfzy-sfzy ivcfr nhIN suxdy. ivcfrF dI kdr nhIN krdy. ivcfrF nUM aihmIaq nhIN idMdy. ikvyN nf ikvyN Auh afpUM hI sfzy quhfzy ivcfrF nUM sunx, AuhnF dI kdr krn, AuhnF nUM sunx aqy apnfAux leI Auqfvly ho jfx aqy quhfzy sfzy ivcfrF dy DfrnI ho jfx.

* quhfzf-sfzf pRBfv vwDy. aiDkfrF df Kyqr surwiKaq hovy aqy dUijaF pfsoN kMm krvfAux dI Xogqf ivc vfDf hovy.

* sLkfieqF nUM inptfAux ivc aOK nf afvy. isLkfieqF qoN ikvyN bcIey? ikvyN AuhnF df sfhmxf krIey? dUijaF pfsoN afpxy mn-BfAuNdf jfiejL kMm ikvyN krvf skIey? ikvyN bihsF qoN bicaf jfvy? dUijaF nfl sfzy-quhfzy sMprk ikvyN vwDx? ikvyN iehnF ivc gUVHqf aqy nyVqf af sky? ikvyN ivhfr suKfvF aqy idliKcHvF ho sky?

* sMgI-sfQIaF ivc AuqsLfh aqy AumMg dIaF lihrF-bihrF ikvyN kIqIaF jf skdIaF hn. cMgy bulfry aqy cMgy ilKfrI ikvyN bixaf jfvy?

* aqy imwqrqf dy Gyry ikvyN vDfey jfx. sLuB-icMqk ikvyN bxfeIey? vYrI ikvy GtfeIey aqy asLuB-icMqkF nUM ikvyN sLuB-icMqkF dI sUcI ivc sLfml krIey?

pr pihlf sbk pihlF---

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pihlf sbk jo mYN pihlF pwly bMinHaf iksy hor dy vI bMnHx Xog hY. bMnHx Xog ho skdf hY. pwly bMnH sko qF bMnH lAu. nhIN bMnxf qF ZwTy KUh ivc jfAu.

pihly sbk (pfT) dy pihly vfk ivc iek sLbd hY: aflocnf.

pUrf sbk hY: iksy dI aflocnf nf kro.

aflocnf nf kro? hF, hF, aflocnf nf kro.

ieh gwl mYN pwly bMnH leI hY. ho sky qF qusIN vI ibnF hIl-huwjq ies nUM pwly bMnH hI lAu. sMsfr df koeI vI mnuwK, BfvyN ikMnf hI Audfr-icwq bx ky idKfvy, kdy vI Kuwd nUM iksy vI gwl leI dosLI nhIN TihrfAuNdf. cfhy Auh ikMnf vI glq ikAuN nf hovy, cfhy AusdI ikMnI hI BfrI Buwl ikAuN nf hovy Auh sdf hI afpxy vrqfry nUM TIk hI smJdf hY aqy shI hI drsFdf hY. ies leI aflocnf ivarQ huMdI hY ikAuNik ies ivc dosLI Kuwd nUM by-gunfh iswD krn lwgdf hY.

aflocnf bhuq Kqrnfk huMdI hY. ikAuNik aflocnf mnuwK dy bhumuwly mfx nUM jLKmI krdI hY. aflocnf AusdI mhwqqf dy cIQVy Auzf idMdI hY. aflocnf AusdI Bfvnf nUM Tys phuMcfAuNdI hY. iswty vjoN, aflocnf Ausdy kroD nUM BVkfAuNdI hY. Bfv aflocnf nfl kroD ivc vfdf hoeI jFdf hY. ies leI dUijaF dI aflocnf krnI by-arQ hY. XkIn krnf iksy prkfr dy ikMqU-prMqU leI koeI guMjfiesL nhIN. ies leI ikMqU-prMqUaF dy cwkr iqafgky jykr eImfndfrI nfl afpxy aMdr JfkIey qF aflocnf dy kfrnfmy sfzI ihwk aMdr nMgf nfc krdy ivKfeI dy jfxgy.

Aupr afiKaf sI: iksy dUjy dI, BfvyN Auh dUjf ikMnf vI aprfDI jF dosLI ikAuN nf hovy, aflocnf krnI byarQ aqy byloVI hY. mnuwK, mnuwK hox kfrn afpxy suBf qoN mjLbUr hY. Auh, aprfDI hox qy vI dosL svIkfr nhIN krdf, nhIN kr skdf. Auh afpxy dosLF leI sdf hI dUjy nUM hI dosLI TihrfAuNdf hY.

imwTI aflocnf? aflocnf BfvyN imwTI hovy jF iqwKI, aflocnf hI huMdI hY. iqwKI jF imwTI aflocnf iek prkfr dI inMdf hI hY. ies leI aflocnf Bfv inMdf krn df nqIjf aksr cMgf nhIN inkldf.

mYNnUM pqf qusIN kihxf cfhuMdy ho: nhIN, mYN dUjy dI aflocnf krky AusdI inMdf nhINN krnf cfhuMdf mYN qF AusnUM suDfrnf cfhuMdf hF, bdlnf cfhuMdf hF.

aCf, aCf, qusIN ieh PYslf kr ilaf hY ik dUjy bMdy nUM suDrn dI loV hY, bdlx dI loV hY. qusIN AusnUM suDfr ky, bdlky, Ausdf Blf krnf cfhuMdy ho. bVf cMgf ivcfr hY. bVI cMgI soc hY. bs, iewk pwl ruwk jfxf----

qusIN bhuq hI Blf kfrj krnf loVdy ho. qusIN afpxI ies soc leI vDfeI dy pfqr ho. pr ikMnf cMgf hovy jykr ieh BlfeI df kMm qusIN-asIN afpxy qoN hI afrMB krIey. KuwdgLrjL bxidaF vI, afpxy afp nUM bdlx jF suDfrn df Xqn krnf, iksy dUjy nUM bdlx df Xqn krn qoN ikqy vwD afsfn aqy Gwt iBafnk vI hY.

bRfAUinMg df afKf mYN zfierI ivc moty awKrF ivc not kr ilaf hY. Auh afKdf hY: “jdoN mnuwK df XuwD afpxy afp nfl afrMB huMdf hY, AudoN hI Ausdf kuJ muwl pYNdf hY.”

aflocnf iek awg dI cMigafVI hY. bhuq hI Kqrnfk. iek aijhI Kqrnfk aqy iBafnk cMigafVI jo hMkfr dy rUp ivc Bry godfm ivc ivsPot krn dI qfkq rwKdI hY. aqy aijhf ivsPot kdy kdy mOq nUM vI bulfvf dy idMdf hY.

sB qrHF dy lokF nfl hI ivhfr krdy smyN, sfnUM ieh gwl sdf hI cyqy rwKxI cfhIdI hY ik asIN sfry hI lok iek qrHF dy mfnisk afvyg dy isLkfr hF, pwKpfq nfl Bry pey hF aqy mfx-hMkfr nfl pRvfihq hF. qrk sLfsqrIaF nfl vI kIqI jfx vflI bihs jF aflocnf smyN iDafn rwKx dI jLrUrq hY.

inwjI qF inwjI, ivhfrk, sfihqk, rfjnIqk, Dfrimk, smfijk, ieiqhfsk, pirvfrk aqy siBafcfirk aflocnf vI aksr Kqrnfk sfbq huMdI hY. aflocnf qoN bicaf jfxf cfhIdf hY.

aMgryjI sfihq dy BMzfr ivc bhuq vfDf krn vflf tfms hfrzI iewk Auwc kotI df nfvilst sI. pr Auh vI aflocnf df isLkfr hoieaf. Ausny vI iek kVI aflocnf dy kfrn hmysLF hmysLF leI nfvl ilKxf Cwz idwqf. aflock ny pqf nhIN kI Kwitaf?

aflocnf qoN hI duwKI ho ky tfms cytrtn nfmk aMgryj kvI ny afqm-hwiqaf kr leI. bVy hI ikMqU-prMqU kIqy jf skdy hn. pr XkIn krnf AuhnF dI iblkuwl hI loV nhIN aqy nf hI mhwqqf hY. aflocnf BfvyN iksy vI ZMg nfl hI kIqI jfvy afiKr aflocnf hI huMdI hY. qusIN lwK khI jfvo ik aflocnf qoN zrnf nhIN cfhIdf. aflocnf qF AusfrU kMm krdI hY. swc jfixAu, aflocnf koeI AusfrU kMm nhIN krdI. aflocnf iksy df vI kuJ nhIN suafrdI. aflocnf isrP ivgfVdI hI ivgfVdI hY. qF iPr kI aflocnf krn vfly mUrK hn. sLfied iblkul hI ‘hF’.

aqy koeI vI mUrK--aqy iKmF krnf asIN sfry bhuq krky hF hI mUrK (jykr afpxy aMdr Jfk ky vyKIey qF Jwt hI ieh swcfeI Aujfgr ho jfvygI)--aflocnf kr skdf hY, isLkfieq kr skdf hY, mUMh Pulf skdf hY, kroD ivc af ky avf-qvf bol skdf hY, gflHF kwZ skdf hY. pr sfzy ies ivhfr ivc qbdIlI dI loV ijMnI sfnUM hY, hor iksy nUM nhIN. qbdIlI leI awj hI lwk bMnH lYxf jLrUrI hY.

bMjymn PRykiln jdoN PrFs df rfjdUq bxky igaf qF bVf sPLl irhf. Aus ny afpxI sPLlqf sbMDI iewk bhuq hI Byd vflI gwl dwsI: “(mYN qhIaf kr ilaf sI)--ik mYN iksy nUM vI kdy vI burf nhIN khFgf. hr iek dIaF jo cMgIaF gwlF mYNnUM pqf hY mYN kyvl Auh hI ikhf krFgf.”

gurbfxI vI isiKaf idMdI hY: hm nhIN cMgy burf nhIN koie..

qF iPr kI aflocnf dI QF cfplUsI krnI cfhIdI hY. cfplUsI aqy dUjy dIaF cMgIaF gwlF dI gwl krn ivc bhuq aMqr hY. kIqI geI cfplUsI df Jwt hI pqf lwg jFdf hY. loVINdy guxF dI isPLq aqy cfplUsI ivc jLmIn asmfn df aMqr hY.

drasl, lokF nUM, iksy dUjy nUM, burf kihx dI QF AuhnF nUM smJx dI loV hY. tIkf-itwpxI krn dI QF sfnUM ieh smJx df Xqn krnf cfhIdf hY ik jo kuJ dUjy kr rhy hn, Auh ikAuN kr rhy hn. AuhnF df ivAuhfr aijhf ikAuN hY. aflocnf jF tIkf-itpxI dy mukfbly, dUijaF dy ivAuhfr ipwCy Cuwpy hoey mksd nUM smJ ky kIqf igaf vrqfrf ikqy vwD cMgf, lfBdfiek aqy sfrQk pRBfv pf skx dI qfkq rwKdf hY. aijhf krn nfl hmdrdI, sihxsLIlqf, ikrpflqf, idaflqf aqy suihrdqf pYdf hUMdI hY. sB nUM jfnx aqy smJx ivc shfieqf imldI hY.

asl ivc sB nUM jfnx df arQ hY ik asIN sB nUM muafPL krn dy guxF dy DfrnI bxdy jf rhy hF.

aflocnf krnI iqafgo. iqafgo? hF, hF, iqafgo. ikAuN iqafgo? ikAuN?? zfktr jfnsn df afKf jykr mn ivc vws jfvy qF ikAuN df jvfb iml jfvygf. Auh afKdf hY: “sRI mfn jI! Bgvfn (rwb) vI mnuwK dy krmF df ivcfr AusdI mOq qoN pihlF nhIN krdf.”

qF iPr Blf--aflocnf krky --qusIN aqy mYN mnuwK dy krmF df ivcfr Ausdy ijAuNdy jI ikAuN krIey? hF, hF ikAuN krIey?

pr hux vI suaflF df suafl vwzf suafl pYdf huMdf hY ik kI qusIN jF mYN aflocnf df iqafg krn leI XqnsLIl ho skdy hF?

hF ho qF skdy hF. pr mYNnUM pwkf XkIn hY ik aijhf nf qF qusIN hI krogy aqy nf hI sLfied mYN hI. ikAuN jo afiKr asIN iensfn ju hoey.